SELF-operating system & Emotional Intelligence

Aleksandar Nikoloski Jan 29, 2025

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On this episode of ‘The Seer Show podcast’ with Sifu Rafael, they explore self-control and the strategies to manage it effectively. Sifu Rafael guides listeners through a profound conversation with guests Tracy and Matthew, who bring unique insights into emotional intelligence and personal growth.

Key Points Discussed:

  1. Understanding Self-Control:
    • Tracy introduces a methodology using the acronym “SELF,” which helps people gain a deeper understanding of themselves and better manage their emotions and actions.
  2. The SELF Method:
    • S for Self-Coaching: Engaging in self-reflection by asking personal questions like “How am I feeling?” and “Why do I feel this way?”
    • E for Eliminating Self-Sabotage: Recognizing and steering away from negative, reactive patterns that lead to undesired outcomes.
    • L for Leveraging Strengths: Utilizing one’s strengths to foster positive thinking and effective decision-making.
    • F for Forging Intentional Results: Making conscious choices to achieve desired life outcomes, ensuring actions are aligned with personal goals.
  3. Discussion on Emotional Intelligence:
    • Matthew discusses how trauma influences self-control and how understanding one’s emotional triggers can lead to better management of business and personal life.
  4. Practical Tips for Daily Practice:
    • The importance of daily journaling to understand and regulate emotions.
    • Techniques for maintaining a proactive rather than reactive approach to challenges.
  5. Empathy and Understanding:
    • Emphasizing the role of empathy in overcoming judgment of oneself and others, thereby improving overall mental well-being.

Notable Quotes:

  • “Control is actually an illusion; what we really need to learn is to be okay with what is.” – Matthew
  • “Deciding what it is that you want either from today or from the next 10 years is the first step towards empowerment.” – Tracy
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About the author

Aleksandar Nikoloski

Aleks is BGS’s Head of Revenue Optimization, an author, and a speaker. He has helped rapid-scale dozens of 6, 7, and multiple 8-figure stores as part of BGS’s Amplify Partnership program. He has gotten one store from $2.6 million a year to $6.7 million a year in 24 months, while another from doing $300k/month to doing over $2 million/month in less than 6 months, just to mention a few. The BGS team calls him the “Site Whisperer” because of his ability to find site nuances that derail the customers’ journey and cause purchase friction. Extremely meticulous and analytical, he credits all of this success to data and accurate interpretation of that data, as well as his ability to implement and test new ideas almost immediately.